![]() But she does not know the incredible feeling of relief she will feel when she gets a clean scan. You may not comprehend the fear she feels. This family history is also why she avoids testing. It’s really bothering me, and I don’t know what to do to convince her.Ĭan you please give me some advice about how to help her?ĭear Upset: Your daughter has important reasons to get a mammogram - after all, she has a family history of cancer (through her father’s side). ![]() She also works in the healthcare field and knows about the risks of breast cancer. There are many aunts and her grandmother (on her father’s side) who have had breast cancer. The truth is that she needs to take care of herself, and I have said it many times. You might offer to take the kids for an overnight on Fridays (a very helpful gesture), but otherwise let her know that unless it is a true emergency, she will have to make other arrangements for childcare.īallet lessons might make a nice special-occasion gift - but with unemployment at a low 3.6 percent, if the children need shoes, then perhaps their able-bodied dad can figure out a way to provide.Įstablish respectful and loving boundaries and focus on maintaining a positive relationship with the children.ĭear Amy: My problem is that my daughter (who is 41 years old) does not want to get a mammogram.Įvery time I mention it to her, she dismisses me and wants to change the subject. She has options, and she can make changes if she wants her life to be different.ĭon’t agree to anything if you are going to resent it and then make her “pay” in other ways. Your daughter has already established that she can run a household as a single parent. A complete lack of pressure or (expressed) judgment or shame from you might actually inspire her to take a long look at the reality of her life. In fact, unless your daughter comes to you with complaints, or for advice and financial gifts or bailouts, there is no need for you to weigh in at all. ![]() Her choice to martyr herself to a husband who sounds like a selfish deadbeat must seem puzzling to you, but your role here is not to fix her life. Monday, February 13th 2023 Home Page Close MenuĪsk Amy: Wife’s sudden jealousy makes husband wonderĭear Miserable: You could cope with this better if you understood and accepted that your daughter is making a series of choices. ![]()
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